Relationships

Sex Ain’t Nothing But a Number: Really?

I was having a conversation with a friend who was interested in having sex with a guy who was interested in having sex with her.  So what is the problem right?  Two mature adults both attracted to each other…she was hesitant to have sex with him because she was “concerned about her number”! I was taken aback for a minute, while trying to figure out exactly what she meant by number.  Then…
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Relationships

Lack of Sex: A Symptom of the Issues in Your Relationship

Have you ever heard yourself saying: Why don’t we have sex like we used to? He doesn’t want to have sex as often. I feel like she is doing it because she has too. What can I do to improve our sex life? If these thoughts have ever run through your head or are running through your head right now you are in good company.  These are just a few of the most common questions that I hear as a…
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Relationships

Are You Sexually Wealthy?

How many times a week/month should I/we be having sex?  This question has been asked again and again and again.  And there is no right answer.  The mathematics of sex do not necessarily equal good sex.  What happened if you were having the ideal amount of sex for you, let’s say twice a day but you were not having it with the person that you wanted to be having it with. And it wasn’t the…
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Relationships

Sexual Self Confidence

By Dr. Stephen de Wit What is the sexiest thing about a woman?  What do men want?  How can I turn my partner on?  These questions are a staple of my life as a sexologist and seem to be permanently tattooed on the inner walls of women’s minds, and for good reason.  The answer is not something easy to obtain, it is not something on your body that can be augmented or reduced, it is not a…
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Relationships

Forget Your Sex Life and Focus on Your Erotic Life

Sure it is kind of strange for a sexologist to be saying forget about your sex life.  Shouldn’t I be saying have more sex?  Probably, but I rarely do what I’m supposed to do…it keeps life interesting.  In an effort to get people to look at how they relate to their partners differently, changing the focus from sex to eroticism is often the shift that is necessary. Often people will allow…
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