While long distance love may make for lonely nights and the need to keep a few extra batteries on hand in the nightstand, living and loving from a distance is a common arrangement in the modern, globalized world. As more people connect through online dating, new relationships are often separated by hundreds of miles from the onset. And though the distance may prove challenging at times, smart…
I was having a conversation with a friend who was interested in having sex with a guy who was interested in having sex with her. So what is the problem right? Two mature adults both attracted to each other…she was hesitant to have sex with him because she was “concerned about her number”! I was taken aback for a minute, while trying to figure out exactly what she meant by number. Then…
Have you ever heard yourself saying:
Why don’t we have sex like we used to?
He doesn’t want to have sex as often.
I feel like she is doing it because she has too.
What can I do to improve our sex life?
If these thoughts have ever run through your head or are running through your head right now you are in good company. These are just a few of the most common questions that I hear as a…
How many times a week/month should I/we be having sex? This question has been asked again and again and again. And there is no right answer. The mathematics of sex do not necessarily equal good sex. What happened if you were having the ideal amount of sex for you, let’s say twice a day but you were not having it with the person that you wanted to be having it with? And it wasn’t the…
By Dr. Stephen de Wit
What is the sexiest thing about a woman? What do men want? How can I turn my partner on? These questions are a staple of my life as a sexologist and seem to be permanently tattooed on the inner walls of women’s minds, and for good reason. The answer is not something easy to obtain, it is not something on your body that can be augmented or reduced, it is not a…
Sure it is kind of strange for a sexologist to be saying forget about your sex life. Shouldn’t I be saying have more sex? Probably, but I rarely do what I’m supposed to do…it keeps life interesting. In an effort to get people to look at how they relate to their partners differently, changing the focus from sex to eroticism is often the shift that is necessary.
Often people will allow…
Ahoy matey, I be needin’ to give a go’ somethin’ kinky – that is “pirate speak” for “hey there, I want to try something kinky”.
When exploring sexually uncharted waters there are a few quick steps you can follow to avoid things going south (not in the good way). Unfortunately, porn has become the default sex education. So we watch something online and then think that we know it…
Just say no, to sex. That doesn’t quite sound right coming from a sexologist! Don’t we all love sex? Don’t we all want more sex? Yes! But we want great sex! More bad sex is not something that most sane people desire. Let’s face it bad sex sucks! You may be asking yourself, how could saying “yes” to sex make it worse? Doesn’t practice make perfect?
If you are not feeling…
“It’s a foot long, hard as a rock and will knock your socks off” – the myth of the penis. Men and women have come to expect so much from this organ that when it does not “perform” up to its expected proficiency there is great weeping and gnashing of teeth. Well maybe not weeping and gnashing but some serious anxiety usually results.
As an adolescent the issue is not getting it up…
Let’s face it, bad sex sucks! There are no two ways about it. You know that awkward, uncomfortable feeling that comes over you afterwards. You know it was bad. Your partner knows it was bad, but you don’t want to say anything to offend your partner. So you just pretend everything is normal. That is until you leave or they leave and then you replay it in your head…
