He doesn’t love me anymore! He is cheating on me. He has an STI. He is addicted to porn. I am not attractive enough. Why doesn’t he want to have sex with me? Many women have had these questions eat up their head space while they desperately try to recreate the sexual connection they once had with their partner. A sexual connection with someone is very important – no one is denying…
By Stephen de Wit
“Slut, promiscuous, easy, whore, floozy, tramp, dirty, hussy, ho, loose”; take a moment, think back to the last time you used any of these words. Why did you use them? Were you happy? Were you supportive? Or were you angry and upset and used them in a damaging way? My guess would be the latter. As a society we have used individuals’ sexuality as a weapon against…
By Stephen de Wit
You come home from work early. You wake up to get a drink of water. You are using his laptop. And you find out he is cheating on you, not with another woman, but with porn! Your brain kicks into overdrive. I am not good enough, he does not think I am sexy, I do not satisfy him sexually, he is a pervert, he is addicted to porn! STOP! Over the years many women have…
Sexting is hot! From naughty words to saucy pics, smart phones can pack as much erotic power as our traditional battery-operated devices. And though this techno-sex behaviour is low risk in some respects (STIs, unintended pregnancy), it carries a unique set of risks with regard to personal disclosure.
Here are some tips for hotter, safer sexting:
Don’t show your face.
You’re gorgeous. But you…
Can you eat your way to a better sex life?
Combining food with sex may sound too good to be true, but new research suggests that a little erotic nutrition may be just what the doctor ordered.
Don’t worry about shucking those oysters, as a Canadian review of 150 international studies found that a few simple spices may enhance sexual performance and satisfaction. Small amounts of saffron, the…
By Stephen de Wit
What would happen if you were the “I” in STI? As in “I have one!” How would you feel? How did you get it? How do you tell other partners? What would you do? Who would you tell? Where would you go to get treatment? These are just a few of the questions that I am sure would be racing through your head. Oh the horror, the shame, the guilt……
That depends. Do you want to? Research suggests that around half of Canadians have engaged in a one-night stand while the other half has not. So there you go. You’re normal either way. You should never feel pressure to do something because you think everyone else is doing it or you feel the need to check off that box on this month’s sexuality survey. Trust me, you’re not a “prude” just…
Grey’s Anatomy got this one right: a penis can actually be fractured. No. There is not an actual bone inside that boner, but the spongy tissue that fills with blood to harden the penis during erection and the more dense tissue surrounding these chambers (tunica albuginea) can become ruptured.
It is suffice to say that you’ll know if a penis is broken, but symptoms may include a loud snap…
If you’ve ever attended one of my workshops or educational seminars, you’ll know that one of the first rules of sex is lube, lube, lube! Along with an open mind and honest communication, lube is fundamental to both safety and pleasure. There is just so much more you can do in terms of stroking, pulsing, squeezing, twisting, rubbing and kissing when you’re both nice and wet.
Not only does…
By: Stephen de Wit
“Life’s journey is not to arrive at the grave safely in a well preserved body, but rather to slide in sideways, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, screaming ‘HOLY CRAP what a ride!’” George Carlin
“Dance like no one is watching. Love like you’ll never be hurt. Sing like no one is listening. Live like it is heaven on earth.” William Purkey
These are just two…
