Social Commentary

The Night I Realized My Heterosexual Privilege

Fall 1992. Detroit. I was in my 3rd. year at the University of Windsor (after taking a year off) located in Windsor, Ontario, Canada; the border city to Detroit, Michigan. I lived in a red brick duplex, a two bedroom converted into a three bedroom by making the supposed living room an additional bedroom – by adding a futon and a dresser – this was my room. It worked. I had two…
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Work Stuff

Turn Down the AC - Women are More Productive in Warmer Offices

Summer is just around the corner – longer days of sunshine, flowers are blooming, city sidewalks are filled with an eclectic mix of people, lunchtime and after-work happy-hours fill patios with a fusion of conversations and laughter.  Ahhh – the beloved signs of warmer temperatures. But wait, chances are, amid the chatter are the complaints of cold air-conditioned offices  because as the…
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Nutrition

Greek Feta: There’s Something Cheesy Going On

Is feta cheese made from cow’s milk or sheep and goat’s milk? The answer may not be as obvious as you think. I recently had a chat with my mother about feta, that’s Greek Feta cheese. She like most everyone takes for granted that the feta cheeses sold in stores are all made from sheep or goat’s milk or a combination of the two and are from Greece. I informed her, that it’s not…
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Lifestyle

I Lost My Train of Thought - Again: Dementia or Hormones?

So, I had a frightening experience the other day. I was sitting in a small boardroom, gray walls, no windows except for a dark glass (two-way mirror) with about nine other strangers: 50 to 70 yrs. old. We were all corralled for a focus group to get our opinions and experiences, and in the middle of sharing my perspective in response to a particular question – my mind went blank.
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Relationships

What is the Sexiest Thing about a Woman? Confidence.

By Dr. Stephen de Wit What is the sexiest thing about a woman?  What do men want?  How can I turn my partner on?  These questions are a staple of my life as a sexologist and seem to be permanently tattooed on the inner walls of women’s minds, and for good reason.  The answer is not something easy to obtain, it is not something on your body that can be augmented or reduced, it is not a…
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Relationships

Forget Your Sex Life and Focus on Your Erotic Life

Sure it is kind of strange for a sexologist to be saying forget about your sex life.  Shouldn’t I be saying have more sex?  Probably, but I rarely do what I’m supposed to do…it keeps life interesting.  In an effort to get people to look at how they relate to their partners differently, changing the focus from sex to eroticism is often the shift that is necessary. Often people will allow…
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Relationships

Not in the Mood for Sex? How to Say It.

Just say no, to sex. That doesn’t quite sound right coming from a sexologist!  Don’t we all love sex?  Don’t we all want more sex? Yes!  But we want great sex!  More bad sex is not something that most sane people desire.  Let’s face it bad sex sucks!  You may be asking yourself, how could saying “yes” to sex make it worse?  Doesn’t practice make perfect? If you are not feeling…
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Relationships

The Man, the Myth and His Penis

“It’s a foot long, hard as a rock and will knock your socks off”  – the myth of the penis.  Men and women have come to expect so much from this organ that when it does not “perform” up to its expected proficiency there is great weeping and gnashing of teeth. Well maybe not weeping and gnashing but some serious anxiety usually results. As an adolescent the issue is not getting it up…
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Relationships

Bad Sex Sucks. What's Your Sexual Fingerprint ?

Let’s face it, bad sex sucks! There are no two ways about it. You know that awkward, uncomfortable feeling that comes over you afterwards. You know it was bad. Your partner knows it was bad, but you don’t want to say anything to offend your partner. So you just pretend everything is normal. That is until you leave or they leave and then you replay it in your head…
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Makeup

Add a Little Drama with a Set of Falsies

By Samantha Fayman Whenever you want to add a little glam or drama to your look there is no better way than a set of falsies – they widen and enlarge the appearance of the eye and create a focal point for your face.  The challenge with false lashes is applying them.  Most people just aren’t comfortable doing that on themselves.  And don’t fret; this is a challenge even for…
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