Ahoy matey, I be needin’ to give a go’ somethin’ kinky – that is “pirate speak” for “hey there, I want to try something kinky”.
When exploring sexually uncharted waters there are a few quick steps you can follow to avoid things going south (not in the good way). Unfortunately, porn has become the default sex education. So we watch something online and then think that we know it…
Just say no, to sex. That doesn’t quite sound right coming from a sexologist! Don’t we all love sex? Don’t we all want more sex? Yes! But we want great sex! More bad sex is not something that most sane people desire. Let’s face it bad sex sucks! You may be asking yourself, how could saying “yes” to sex make it worse? Doesn’t practice make perfect?
If you are not feeling…
“It’s a foot long, hard as a rock and will knock your socks off” – the myth of the penis. Men and women have come to expect so much from this organ that when it does not “perform” up to its expected proficiency there is great weeping and gnashing of teeth. Well maybe not weeping and gnashing but some serious anxiety usually results.
As an adolescent the issue is not getting it up…
Let’s face it, bad sex sucks! There are no two ways about it. You know that awkward, uncomfortable feeling that comes over you afterwards. You know it was bad. Your partner knows it was bad, but you don’t want to say anything to offend your partner. So you just pretend everything is normal. That is until you leave or they leave and then you replay it in your head…
He doesn’t love me anymore! He is cheating on me. He has an STI. He is addicted to porn. I am not attractive enough. Why doesn’t he want to have sex with me? Many women have had these questions eat up their head space while they desperately try to recreate the sexual connection they once had with their partner. A sexual connection with someone is very important – no one is denying…
By Stephen de Wit
“Slut, promiscuous, easy, whore, floozy, tramp, dirty, hussy, ho, loose”; take a moment, think back to the last time you used any of these words. Why did you use them? Were you happy? Were you supportive? Or were you angry and upset and used them in a damaging way? My guess would be the latter. As a society we have used individuals’ sexuality as a weapon against…
By Stephen de Wit
You come home from work early. You wake up to get a drink of water. You are using his laptop. And you find out he is cheating on you, not with another woman, but with porn! Your brain kicks into overdrive. I am not good enough, he does not think I am sexy, I do not satisfy him sexually, he is a pervert, he is addicted to porn! STOP! Over the years many women have…
Sexting is hot! From naughty words to saucy pics, smart phones can pack as much erotic power as our traditional battery-operated devices. And though this techno-sex behaviour is low risk in some respects (STIs, unintended pregnancy), it carries a unique set of risks with regard to personal disclosure.
Here are some tips for hotter, safer sexting:
Don’t show your face.
You’re gorgeous. But you…
Can you eat your way to a better sex life?
Combining food with sex may sound too good to be true, but new research suggests that a little erotic nutrition may be just what the doctor ordered.
Don’t worry about shucking those oysters, as a Canadian review of 150 international studies found that a few simple spices may enhance sexual performance and satisfaction. Small amounts of saffron, the…
By Stephen de Wit
What would happen if you were the “I” in STI? As in “I have one!” How would you feel? How did you get it? How do you tell other partners? What would you do? Who would you tell? Where would you go to get treatment? These are just a few of the questions that I am sure would be racing through your head. Oh the horror, the shame, the guilt……
